Movie Suggestion: The Miracle Worker

What is this movie all about? And what makes this movie interesting?

This movie is an old movie that was recommended to me by my sister who is taking up BS in Education Major in Special Education. This is one of their assignments in school and just like her, I was moved by it.

This movie is about the story of Anne Sullivan and Helen Keller. Who wouldn’t know the tandem of those two most inspirational women of all time? I’ve been dying to read or watch a movie about them, especially Helen Keller because I want to know how did they become the two most talked about women in history.

At first, I thought that I will be moved by Helen but I was wrong. It was Anne Sullivan that has really touched my heart. Because of her patience, passion and dedication.

Teaching someone like Helen who is physically challenged was really difficult: physically exhausting and mind-blowing. A person like Helen needs a strong person to understand her and teach her the  things she needs to know about life. Through out the movie, Anne never treated Helen as a student but as her own child. She loved her more than any person could.

One thing I’ve learned, is the importance of discipline to a child. As parents, there are times when you want to indulge your children in every way or any thing that they want; to the point of spoiling them. I’ve realized that saying “no” to some of their “wants” may be the way for them to learn values that they have to know – patience, humility and respect to name a few.

Communication. This is the main gist of this movie. This is the key to a better relationship.

It seem’s like Helen is not the only one who should learn how to communicate.”

That is what Anne said to Helen’s bother and this has ignited his brother to speak up his mind and tell his parents what he really wants.

Anne Sullivan is indeed a Miracle Worker.

Dearest Heart,

dear heartDearest Heart,

I don’t know how to start this letter for you. Maybe because I know that you are vulnerable and I am afraid that I can hurt you – even more. I can’t bear to do that, because I know you had been broken a number of times.

I’ve seen you flourish and mature over time nevertheless, I’ve always seen you tear into pieces time after time.

Aren’t you getting tired of giving your all and in the end, you’d be broken and be left behind?
Why do you always trust like you’ve never been betrayed before?
Where do you get that courage to love all the way like you’ve never been hurt?
How come you still fight for something you are not even sure of?
How do you manage to stay when they have left you all alone?

Heart, why aren’t you listening to me every time I’d say no?
Why do you insist on doing or saying something even if I told you not to?
Why do you keep on beating for the wrong reasons?
When are you going to value yourself?
When are you going to know that you too, are important?

What enrages me right now, is that, you are getting used to defeat.
You confuses me too – most of the time.
You’d get scared and back off. But then, you’d feel bad after.
You’d wish you had not done what you did.

You too are inconsistent.
Heart, please learn to decide what is best for you.
If you are ready, then be it.
If you’re not, wait until you are.

Being with someone isn’t prerequisite to being happy.
Sometimes, it’s ok to back off if you know you are scared to be involved.

But please, don’t just hope forever.
Always remember, if that person doesn’t want to be with you right now,
it’s not about you. It’s about them,
who can’t see your true beauty.

Heart, please remember, someone will save you from these shit.

Someday, you’ll meet him. At the right place. At the right time.

From someone that truly cares

Disappointments in Disguise

Do your bestWhy Shouldn’t We Expect For More

That was an article I wrote a few months back. Mostly dwelled about the difference of expectations and hope.

But today, not only will I delete “expecting for more” but I want to languish expectations wholly in my mind. As they’d always say and have proven as well,

Expectations are disappointments in disguise.

I want to stop expecting anything from anyone anymore – including myself. I already stopped expecting myself to do things I am not good at and at the same time, stopped pushing myself too much. I’d realize that what matters most is doing my very best in everything that I do. Be the BEST that I can be, giving my whole self to every situation and if that “Best” me isn’t enough to other people, it’ll never be my loss anymore.

In dealing with others, I don’t like to expect that they can be someone else and can be that someone I picture in my head. I have to start accepting, that every person is different. There can be similarities, but everyone is unique in their own way.

Expectations spoil surprises.

Some doesn’t like surprises because it can caught them off guard. But those little things can make you smile more and appreciate that very moment – surprise phone call, messages, greetings, gifts, notes; who wouldn’t love them?

Expectations on the other hand, let you create an imaginary situation that may either make you feel good (sometimes) in the end, but most of the time, can disappoint you.

Start looking at yourself the way it is, improve yourself everyday. If you notice something is wrong about you, try to work on it and do not try to become someone else other than who you really are. Appreciate the moment, the people you are with and start living in the present. Give every situation a fresh look and try to peek in a different perspective without prejudice and without expectation.

Life can be so much easier! (and happier!)

Be Yourself

Be Yourself

“Be Yourself”

How many times have we heard that phrase? How many articles have we read reminding us to just be ourselves? Just like in my previous article, Why We Liked the Movie Frozen and the Song “Let It Go”, we have emphasized the importance of accepting our true self.

But the question is, how would you know if you are really becoming yourself?

As I assess myself with that question, I also came up with a series of questions that I wish to reflect on.(You can ask the same question to yourself)

How do you act when you are with the people who you are most comfortable with?Do you smile a lot when you are with them? Do you laugh a lot?
Do you instill kindness to them even if they can’t return the favor back?
When are you most comfortable? At home? Alone? With your family? friends?
During those times, how do you feel?  and can you reminisce  on what exactly do you feel like?

In most times when I remember how I am with my family (the people I am most comfortable with) I feel free. I know that no matter how I look like, they will still love me.

I am at peace.
I don’t feel inferior.
I don’t feel awkward.
I don’t feel intimidated.
I feel comfortable.
I smile a lot.
Whatever I have wouldn’t matter because I am just being myself.

When you are being yourself, other people’s opinion wouldn’t matter as well because you don’t need to pattern “yourself” base from what they want.

You are who you are because it is what is in your heart.
You were doing things not because you were told to but because that is exactly what you want to do.
You’d go to places not because you were summoned to go there but because that is exactly the same spot that you want to be.

Why should I let him decide how I’m going to act? – How to Take Charge, Reader’s Digest, 1981 Edition

You’d do act of kindness not because other people are observing you but because you genuinely want to help and be a good person.
You’d still be polite even without expecting a polite response because that is who you are.

When you are acting instead of reacting, then, you are becoming yourself.

How do you act towards someone who wouldn’t smile back to you? Do you keep on smiling anyway?
Do you try to out-stand someone who is an airhead? Do you reply with arrogance if that is the case?
Do you act a certain way because you are the boss?

Well, if you act base on your status, base on the amount of money that you have, base from your position or whatever it is that you have above others, then, you are not becoming yourself because you base your actions from anything aside from what is in your heart – money, power, position, other people’s reaction towards you, etc.

Becoming yourself means having that humility and the courage to let people see through you. Anything less or more could mean, you are becoming someone else.

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fear, intimidation, inferior          YOURSELF       over-confidence, arrogance
Self – Esteem
You have the courage of humble confidence

So, how do you become your true self?

When you continue to do good deeds without expecting anything in return.

When you are acting instead of reacting. Most of the time, you do things as a reaction to other people’s words and actions instead of you, doing the things that your heart really desires.

When you start to say “NO” and value what you want and what you don’t want.

Never be intimidated. Look others directly in the eye, be sincere, speak from your heart and by then, not only can you find your true self but also, peace of mind.

You can shine bright like a diamond.

Be yourself. You are not born to be mediocre. You are born to stand out. Embrace it.